Work
Shrewsbury House Community Centre
Room 9
Bushmoor crescent
Shooters Hill
SE18 3EG
Tel: Direct Line: 0843 2891481 or 07913 669832

http://www.counselling-one2one.co.uk

 

I HAVE EXPERIENCE WITH ISSUES RELATING TO:

ANXIETY:

Each person suffering from anxiety disorder has unique symptoms, however a common theme involves excessive anxiety, irrational fear and dread. Examples of anxiety symptoms include:

  • Feelings of panic, fear, and nervousness.
  • Uncomfortable, obsessive thinking.
  • Nightmares, problems sleeping.
  • Irrational ritualistic behaviours, such as repeated hand washing.
  • Excessive sweating or numbness in the hands or feet.
  • Shortness of breath, hyperventilation.
  • Chest pain or heart palpitation.
  • An inability to be still and calm.
  • Dry mouth, nausea, dizziness.

STRESS:

Stress can be useful in small doses as it can motivate you to do your best and to remain focused and alert.
However, after a certain point it can lead to a feeling of being under too much pressure mentally and emotionally, it affects how we feel, think and behave.

Many of life’s demands can cause stress such as work, relationship and money.

Some common signs of stress include

  • sleeping problems
  • sweating,
  • loss of appetite,
  • difficulty concentrating,
  • irritability,
  • feeling overwhelmed,
  • isolated or depressed.

Abuse & Bullying :

Abuse can affect anyone from all walks of life. It can take the form of physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse or neglect. Bullying is also a form of abuse, which has a detrimental affect on a person’s life.

Physical abuse can occur through hitting, punching, burning, scalding, choking, kicking, throwing, beating or other actions, which cause physical injury.

Emotional abuse can happen through name calling, intimidating, humiliating, manipulating, criticising and threatening which damages self – esteem and self – worth.

Sexual abuse is any type of sexual behaviour which is not consensual or which is between an adult and a child or older child and younger child.

BEREAVEMENT/LOSS:

Losing someone or something you love can be very painful and overwhelming.

Extreme sadness mixed with other surprising emotions such as shock, anger, and guilt are normal and necessary reactions to loss.

Everyone grieves differently, but allowing yourself to experience grief is an important and healthy part of the healing process

BETRAYAL:

The discovery of betrayal can be highly traumatising.

The relationship can become chaotic and a wild roller coaster ride.

Reactions to betrayal.

At the heart is broken trust. And the questions haunt, can I recover? How do I know you won’t do it again?

CONFIDENCE ISSUES:

Signs you have low self – confidence, your level of self- confidence can be seen by others in many ways, in your body language, your behaviour, how you speak and how you react to different situations

DEPRESSION:

Depression is a medical illness that affects both mind and body, it affects how you feel, think and behave.

Depression is more than just a bout of the blues, it is a chronic illness that usually requires long-term treatment.

When feelings of extreme sadness or despair last for two weeks or more and begin to interfere with normal living, you may be suffering from a depressive disorder.

Some people may not realise that they are depressed and they struggle on knowing that something is not right but not knowing why. Some of the signs of depression include:

  • Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
  • Worthlessness and loss of confidence and self – esteem
  • Loss of interest in things which were once enjoyable
  • Tiredness and change in sleeping patterns
  • Irritability
  • Inability to make decisions

DRINK/DRUG/ADDICTION:

Addiction is a chronic and often misunderstood illness.

Many believe addiction and drug and alcohol or substance abuse are a sign or moral weakness, while stopping the addictive behaviour is simply a matter of willpower. Scientific studies, however, have proven this is not the case.

LOW-SELF-ESTEEM:

Low self esteem is how you feel about yourself. This maybe positive, negative or more between the two. Symptoms of low self – esteem

  • Feeling worthless
  • Feeling incompetent and unrealistic about your abilities
  • Feeling unloved
  • Being overwhelmed with fear and negative thoughts
  • Being unrealistic about goals
  • Being drawn into destructive relationships
  • Fear of change
  • Distorted views of self and others

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES:

All relationships and families go through difficult times as the family dynamic grows and changes. However, prolonged difficulties can result in conflict, insecurity and stress.
This can lead to lack of communication, which may leave partners and family members feeling trapped, isolated, frustrated, angry or depressed. Relationship and family difficulties can be caused by difference in opinion, personalities, beliefs, goals or personal circumstances.

These include financial problems, unemployment, moving house, illness, lack of trust or a change in family circumstances,

For example.

  • Tthe new arrival of a new baby, children becoming teenagers, or the blending of families.
  • My partner and I don’t talk any more, it feels as if we’ve drifted apart
  • My partner isn’t having a physical affair, but is very close to someone else
  • I’ve discovered my partner is having an affair, what should I do?
  • I’ve had an affair, how do I tell my partner?
  • How can we cope with the aftermath of an affair?
  • I can’t seem to stop arguing with my partner.
  • What can we do?

PHOBIAS:

Talking treatments, such as counselling are often very effective methods for treating phobias

SEPARATION:

Sometimes the decision to divorce or separate is not a joint one, and a partner is left behind while the other embarks on a new relationship. This can be overwhelming feelings of abandonment and loss can feel quite crippling.


SELF HARM:

Self -harm is a way of intentionally causing physical pain or injury to one’s own body.

It is a way of releasing and expressing deep, emotional distress, which can’t be put into words or thoughts. It can also be used as a way of trying to gain control, as a distraction or a self -punishment .
However, the relief is only temporary as the underlying issues still remain.

Self – harm can manifest itself in a number of ways.

For instance :

  • Cutting, burning, biting
  • Substance abuse
  • Head banging and hitting
  • Taking personal risks
  • Picking and scratching
  • Neglecting oneself
  • Pulling out hair
  • Eating disorders
  • Over dosing and self – poisoning

TRAUMA:

How do people react to trauma

  • Feelings of numbness and unreality
  • Fear/ anxiety/ loss of confidence
  • Tearfulness
  • Feeling low or depressed
  • Sadness and feeling of loss
  • Anger
  • Guilt ( feeling responsible for what happened, or survivor guilt at having survived if others did not)

TRUST ISSUES:

 

The first step is determine if you think the lack of trust is due to the way your partner has acted in the past or your own trust issues from the past or both

How much are you able to trust yourself?

FAMILY ISSUES :

coping with a new baby

getting on with my step children

coping with teenagers

loosing contact with family member

I SPECIALISE IN WORKING WITH ADULT SURVIVORS OF CHILDHOOD:

Sexual Abuse

Emotional Abuse

Physical Abuse

DOMESTIC ABUSE:

Domestic abuse or violence can be physical, emotional, sexual, or psychological.

Common behaviours include name calling, threat making, manipulation, humiliation, blaming.

Other dangerous signs of domestic abuse or violence involves the aggressor attempting to isolate the victim from others. Monitoring the victims behaviour, among other acts.